Making babies

You’re getting married, but you’re not looking to become parents right away. Do you really need to discuss this right now?

Yes! Parenting is a huge part of most marriages, and you need to be on the same page when it comes to your expectations, needs, priorities and plans. If you have very different ideas about parenting and you don’t discuss them now, you could be in for disappointment, lots of conflict and even tragedy.

Consider what God says about becoming parents. Talk about your priorities: your biological clocks, your careers, your finances—and a timeline of what you both expect, even how many children you’d ideally like to have, etc.

What is important to you, really? What if you have children sooner than you’d like? What if you want children but then you can’t have them? Will you adopt? Talk about these possibilities now—just to be sure you’re on the same page.

Then, plan for the future. If the two of you can’t come to an understanding, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Better now than later.