The problem with porn
It’s now generally accepted as normal, and society says it’s just natural for men to view porn, either on the internet, by video, on TV or in magazines. They say it doesn’t matter and it doesn’t hurt anyone, but there’s another side to it—a very dark side.
Truth is, pornography of any kind, trivializes sex, degrades women, erodes trust and desensitizes the conscience. Most often, a woman whose man is addicted to porn of any kind feels betrayed, like there’s another lover competing for her man’s love, and she’s right.
The Bible says that a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways, and that’s true when he is double-minded about his affections. He’s torn between the one he loves and the ones he views, and quite often both are left confused and frustrated—and conflict arises.
This is a serious problem, whether it’s easy to admit or not. One place to start is by going to www.pureintimacy.org and read more about it. There you can find helpful information for overcoming this threat to your relationship.
You should also discuss this problem together as a couple and find support to overcome the addiction through your church or a counselor. Before you get married, make sure you have only one love.
