Marriage and forming your new family

The truth is, when you marry, your new spouse should always come first. Avoid going to your parents first for guidance and advice because they are no longer your primary family; your spouse is. Your growth and maturity requires you to change your emotional ties from your family of origin and make new and deep emotional ties with your spouse.

Too many brides go to their mother, sister or a girlfriend about the struggles in their marriage, and too many guys talk about intimate details of their marriage to their brothers or guy friends. Sooner or later the other will eventually find out, and he or she will feel betrayed. As a result, your relationship will be damaged because you now have a trust issue you have to work through.

So learn to establish boundaries early on in your marriage. Talk together about what each of you can and cannot talk about to others, and decide to keep private things private.